Let's be honest. As young women, we hate the topic modesty. I mean seriously, how are we suppose to feel sexy if the collar of our shirts have to choke us? Trust me, I struggle with this on a daily basis. I haven't grown up in a modest setting. So, this is new for me as well. And I tell ya, I hate it for all the wrong reasons, and my heart is changing for all the right ones. Modesty isn't just a physical thing either, it's also a heart and attitude thing. Yes, clothing is a huge part of it, but the way you talk and the way you act is so important.
Let's tackle the clothing thing first. I'm not a legalist, so I'm not going to give you a bunch of does and don'ts. All I ask is that you do a heart check when you pick your clothes out. Ask yourself these questions: am I wearing this for attention? Who am I wearing this for? Do I want to be treated as an object or a person? Will this outfit give me respect or give me negative attention? Yes, it's nice to be admired, exciting to be idolized, and extremely addictive to feel in control over someone's view of you. BUT, not only is it dangerous, it's also very inadequate in comparison to being genuinely appreciated, respected, and admired on substance.Now, lets talk about what comes from your mouth. The way you talk is not only a reflection of your heart, but also a reflection of who you are as a person. Have you ever heard the expression 'think before you speak'? Its very true, and very appropriate to uphold and practice on a daily babsis. Conversations shouldn't sound like one big orgy on a sailor boat. It's inappropriate for the opposite sex to converse with one another in a sexual based conversation with every other word dropping the 'F bomb' or with any
other curse word. Also, those conversations shouldn't be among a closed gender discussion either. I know what your thinking, where is the fun in that? Or, lighten up? Am I right?What about actions? Taking sexy photos, telling dirty jokes, always having a sarcastic or negative attitude, and the 'just kidding' jokes. It's also in the way you walk and how you carry yourself. There is a fine line between confidence and flirtatousness. There is a difference in being genuine and being condescending. There really isn't a whole lot that I can say on the actions side of things, because it is so black and white. There are no gray areas. We all know the difference between right and wrong. All I ask is that you do a heart check. Really ask yourself the really hard questions, and I encourage you to be honest with yourself. I know a lot of you are like 'who does she think she is'? I'll be honest, I struggle with all of this too. I have a mouth on me. I use curse words; whether with my friends from my childhood, or with my very worldly family. I am very sarcastic and brutally honest. I like dressing the way that I want to dress. I was raised in a very open environment and came from the world. I don't like having restrictions, or being told what I can or cannot do. I know how a lot of girls feel about the modest topic. I get it. But, I am a huge advocate for the protection of girls, young ladies, women, and elderly women. I am also a huge advocate for respect, and I firmly believe that if one wants respect, you first have to respect yourselves and others.
I'm learning too. My heart is changing,because Jesus is constantly changing me. I like wearing tight clothing and feeling pretty, but I love my brothers and sisters in Christ more. I feel beautiful when I am obeying God's commands. Sexy is an object's fantasy, being beautiful is a woman's destiney. Sexy is for a night, Beautiful is for forever
other curse word. Also, those conversations shouldn't be among a closed gender discussion either. I know what your thinking, where is the fun in that? Or, lighten up? Am I right?What about actions? Taking sexy photos, telling dirty jokes, always having a sarcastic or negative attitude, and the 'just kidding' jokes. It's also in the way you walk and how you carry yourself. There is a fine line between confidence and flirtatousness. There is a difference in being genuine and being condescending. There really isn't a whole lot that I can say on the actions side of things, because it is so black and white. There are no gray areas. We all know the difference between right and wrong. All I ask is that you do a heart check. Really ask yourself the really hard questions, and I encourage you to be honest with yourself. I know a lot of you are like 'who does she think she is'? I'll be honest, I struggle with all of this too. I have a mouth on me. I use curse words; whether with my friends from my childhood, or with my very worldly family. I am very sarcastic and brutally honest. I like dressing the way that I want to dress. I was raised in a very open environment and came from the world. I don't like having restrictions, or being told what I can or cannot do. I know how a lot of girls feel about the modest topic. I get it. But, I am a huge advocate for the protection of girls, young ladies, women, and elderly women. I am also a huge advocate for respect, and I firmly believe that if one wants respect, you first have to respect yourselves and others.
I'm learning too. My heart is changing,because Jesus is constantly changing me. I like wearing tight clothing and feeling pretty, but I love my brothers and sisters in Christ more. I feel beautiful when I am obeying God's commands. Sexy is an object's fantasy, being beautiful is a woman's destiney. Sexy is for a night, Beautiful is for forever
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ReplyDeleteKeep on writing these post. Keep on checking your own heart, and, I do pray that all that reads this (that includes me) are checking there hearts, too. It is a struggle with so many young girls, because of the worlds view of what beauty is that they want to be part of that. You have written wisely and honestly, keep looking to the one that makes you beautiful from the inside and out.